September 19, 2004

Marriage

Hello dear reader.

First off I would like to apologize for this absence which is due to unforeseen circumstances. Anyway let us get to it.
Lately I was tinkered with the idea of marriage and basically had my values and beliefs tested in ways that made me look at a broad range of issues from a different perspective. First, though, I need to tell you my perspective in regards to women in general. I think women are beautiful and the right one will always be an extension of you as a man. Yet I hate them because of events that happened to me long time ago that caused me to be who I am today.
Marriage. The sacred bound between a man and women, or in our days, same sex, but all and all it sacred. What struck me the most was the thought of going into a life long relationship with a total stranger. But then again that is how we have been doing it for the past I donít know how long. I, to some degree, oppose marrying someone I donít know. Yet I have a person who I would most likely marry off the regular way. A question pops up in my mind which is, how would you manage between societal values and beliefs and your own? Now a list of questions follow the previous one like how would you go about choosing and would you let your mom choose for you or is seeing her once enough? More questions follow all with out answers. Now let us examine our culture for a second. In Kuwait the norm is to have family pick your future spouse and you end up living with that person for your life. Love or other factors, older people would say, come later. But what if what you want from that relationship never comes? Or what if that person is not right for you? What should you do then? By the time you realize that you have made a mistake you are probably with a couple of kids and you end up holding on to something that was never there just for the kids sakes. Let us look at this issue from another angle. Say you end up marrying someone whom you knew or maybe was in love with. What guarantees you that this person didnít talk to someone else before you and that he or she wouldnít bail out on you later on? Dilemma with a big D hits here. Left of right the chances of failure are pretty high. What also stood out right from the beginning is the fact that most marriages are built either on financial gains or complete disarray. It is true that girls seek financial dependence from potential partners and boys want to dip the sausage before realizing all of this was just makeup. Where is the compatibility part and where is the love part? One most crucial question that I would ask is who is getting married, the guy and the girl or the parents of both. Until all of these questions are answered I remain a bachelor for sometime to come. Being in a battle between what is right culture wise and what is right mind wise seems somewhat never ending. Where are we in this day in age and are we holding on to something that is long overdone its stay? Think about it for a second and look around you at example of people who got married. You will realize something is wrong or maybe right for you but at least think about the other side of an idea or belief and you might just end up exploring something new. Comments as always are appreciated. And that was just another 3gady thought.

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